Monday, June 27, 2005

why do some people cheat on their partners?

this is a quick one as i haven't posted for a long time, i am being held up by lack of technical proficiency which is preventing me post something else i have ready [chorus of: we want the hot water bottle story, we want the hot water bottle story]

in the meantime i have some questions:

- what is it that makes a man cheat on his very warm, funny, gorgeous wife who has gone away for a week with the young children, left him to his own devices, even left cooked meals and left them in the freezer for him so he won't starve while she's away?

- what is it about this man, that makes him then call her every day that she is away? [perhaps so she doesn't call him first at the wrong time and then perhaps interrupt him sharing said nice meals with his whore? just before he sleeps with homewrecker in marriage bed]

- how can a person have an affair for a year with someone? that's not a "slip"

- how can that person look his wife in the eye? take her to his breast? tell her he loves her?

- how can that person look at his children? bear to think that his little daughter might grow up to also put up with having a fucking shit of a husband, or that his innocent son might grow up to be a cunt who cheats on his women?

- how can i as a woman know all this, look my lovely friend in the eye, laugh with her, drink champagne with her, listen to her talk about him, mentally flinching each time she mentions his name, knowing that i hold information that would blow her world apart?

i wish i didn't know. i wish the person who told me had not done so. i want it all just to go away. at least she will go away later this week and i don't have to feel i am betraying each time i look at her, be in the same room with her and don't grab her by the shoulders and shake her and tell her

YOUR HUSBAND IS A BASTARD; HE IS FUCKING ANOTHER WOMAN; SHE THINKS HE IS THE ONE AND HAS SAID THAT SHE WILL GET HIM IN THE END. SHE DOESN'T CARE HE IS MARRIED AND HAS TWO YOUNG CHILDREN.

how does he live with himself? how do i live with myself? i just pretend it's the right thing to do, or NOT do, to NOT tell her.

and she sleeps now in my guest room. i am sitting here up too late. feeling bad.

let me just push it away.

that's better.

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10 comments:

fluffy said...

Unenviable position x infinity. I just wrote a longer comment but erased it as it all boils down to "unenviable position x infinity" anyway.

la nadine said...

ouch.

thats all i got.

MelbourneGirl said...

well, she's heading back home and i feel exhausted. must go to bed early tonight and regroup.

boy it's tiring keeping a big secret

thanks for commenting

some lighter stories to follow soon

la nadine said...

don't you ever thank anyone for commenting again, woman. its a pleasure, not a chore.

roguemaze said...

Of course it's always the man...

hmmmm...

I feel for you though.

MelbourneGirl said...

well, i know it has to be the woman sometimes, we hear the stats, and logically it can't jsut be men.

my father has given me very few sage words of advice, but i remember each one.

man was not meant to be monogamous, was one. by that i think he meant humans.

roguemaze said...

Nice advice.
Gotta love dads.

Leeanne said...

Hello dear!

I find poetry, expressing yourself, can really help you to get through things.

LoL (Lots of Love)

Leeanne x

R H said...

One slip up can be excused, but not an affair. You should tell her. It's you duty.

R H said...

But make sure you're right.